The person you choose to be your partner affects everything in your life, your mental health, your peace of mind, the love inside you, your happiness, how you get through difficulties, your success, how your children will be raised, and so much more. So choose very wisely.
I know the fear of getting hurt again is in the back of your heart. But you have to allow yourself to be loved again. To be cared for and held. You are not meant to be alone. Not meant to walk away from good people loving people.
You are not meant to be unkind to yourself or to hold yourself back from something you want. You deserve long walks and even longer nights with someone you love. You deserve magic. You deserve to find it in someone you least expect. Someone who isn’t afraid to stay. Someone who isn’t all talk who actually shows you how much they need you, especially every moment they have the chance to.
You deserve to be remembered. To be called in the middle of the night. To be told how much you’re missed, appreciated, loved, and needed. You deserve to be happy. Really happy. So let yourself be. Even if the journey terrifies you, give yourself that chance.
Being afraid to love is one thing but not giving yourself another try is something else entirely. Don’t shut yourself out. Don’t let the people who’ve hurt you shape your future. Don’t let the past interfere with your heart or what you feel.
You deserve so much more than you think.
You deserve to live.
Deserve to move on. And love. That is all.
It doesn’t matter how long you stayed, how much time you invested, or how many people you tried to please. At any moment, you have permission to walk away from what’s no longer serving you.
Whether that’s a job, a relationship, an old version of yourself, or a life that fits everyone but you. There’s no shame in realizing you want something different. No guilt in saying, “This isn’t enough anymore.”
You don’t have to hit rock bottom to make a change.
You don’t need a dramatic reason. Peace is a good enough reason. Joy is a good enough reason.
You are a good enough reason.
Maybe you stayed because it once felt safe.
Maybe you were waiting for the right time, the right sign, the right words. The right time is whenever you decide you’re worthy of more. Life won’t always hand you a fresh start, but it will honor your decision to create one.
So, if you’re thinking of choosing yourself today for the first time or the hundredth, I hope you do. I hope you walk toward the life that makes your soul feel light, even if it’s unfamiliar.
Choosing yourself will never be the wrong choice.
I’ve always wished for someone to love me at my lowest. not just when i look pretty, wear red lipstick, put on blush, or dress up nicely. i never wanted someone to only love the best version of me. i wanted someone who could love me when i have no makeup on, when my hair is messy, when i’m quiet, and when i don’t have the energy to pretend i’m okay.
i want to be loved on the days when i overthink everything, cry for no clear reason, and just want to be alone. i want someone who can sit beside me in silence and still choose to stay. someone who doesn’t walk away when i’m sad, moody, and hard to understand. i know anyone can love me when i’m happy, when everything looks perfect. but what about when i’m quiet and unsure of myself?
I hope for a kind of love that doesn’t expect me to be strong all the time. a love that says, “i’m here no matter what.”
I don’t need someone to fix me. i just want someone who won’t leave when i’m not at my best. someone who sees me on my worst days and still chooses me.
because i shouldn’t have to be perfect to be loved.